How A Divorce Turned Out To Be The Best Thing


Everything makes sense, in retrospect that is.

When I was just 2 years old my parents divorced. I don’t remember them ever being together, it’s even strange to think about it. My mother told me that despite being so young the divorce caused a huge impact on me, something I didn’t realize but it showed on my behavior as a kid. To this day I’m still affected by this event, and I know that the consequences will perdure for the rest of my life.

Was it my fault? No. Could I have prevented it? No. Was I affected? Yes. Is it fair? I think it’s one of the best things that has happened to me. In retrospect that is.

You see, I don’t think I would be half the person I am today would it not have been for that divorce. I would certainly not be writing these columns, never mind in English. The experiences I've lived, the wonderful people I have met, the things I have seen, would all be very different if it wasn't for that divorce. It also made me resilient.

So many wonderful things have emerged from that painful event. But like Steve Jobs once said: “You can only connect the dots looking backwards.”

So trust that whatever you are going through right now will make sense in the future. You have to trust, you must have hope. Keep living, keep fighting, keep being hopeful, and most of all, keep growing.

Look back, does that bad event make sense today?

Much happiness,

Hansel | @hanselps